I think that everyone has made false attributions at least once in their lives. I feel as if when people do make false attributes, the conflict tends to worsen more than it should. My previous relationship was not a healthy relationship at all. I could remember a couple false attributions that I made that totally made things worse in our relationship. It was more of a he-said-she-said situation where I should have just asked, instead of assuming. I’ve learned after that, that I should go straight to the source and not to make up stories up in my head and accuse someone of doing something.
There have also been times when I did make accurate attributions. There was a time when I applied for 2 jobs at the same time thinking one wouldn’t work out. I ended up being offered both jobs! I then made an accurate attribute as to what job I would enjoy more and be happier at rather than looking at it as just a monetary situation. I ended up picking accurately and stayed with the company for 5 years!
Glad to hear that you have been working with a company for more than 5 years. I cannot hold a job for more than 18 months, lol. I enjoy learning new things, and my previous jobs felt repetitive. Moreover, i agree with you that everyone has made false attributions. I believe that giving false attributions can save ourselves when we are introduced to new people. If we make ourselves sounds good, then we can keep a good view with others. We can agree that people tend to judge others, so letting people hear what they want can benefit us. However, rumors can easily start, so we have to be careful what is said. The "he-said", "she-said" is a perfect example for communication to fall apart.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that yes, everyone has made false attributions at least once in their lives. Some like to make many of them to stir the pot up and some learn that only once is enough. I also agree with you that yes, with false attributions the conflict tends to worsen more than it really should. I believe that a lot of what goes on with false attributions is he said she said stuff and that’s what makes it worse. I think its awesome that you made accurate attributions, and that you picked a job and stayed with the company for five years! Great Post!
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