Chapter 4: Post 3: Thinking about Conflict

I really enjoyed this chapter and learned a lot about how to handle conflict in my own personal life. What really stood out to me was the context on 'Thinking about the Conflict. I think it goes hand with the saying, "Think before you speak". As humans it is human nature to act out of anger even when we know that it is not the right thing to do.  If we just took 5 minutes to think to ourselves about the problem at hand and then the outcome of the conflict would come out completely different than if we acted out of anger.  

Recently, I was faced with a he-said-she-said scenario. I was extremely upset when I heard of this but knew that I should think about how to handle the situation before bringing it to my friend’s attention. Now, in the past I made assumptions and would believe what I heard and I knew that I should always give the other party the benefit of the doubt, so I did just that. After having time to think about the issue, I approached the issue in a very calm manner and had a very calm discussion about what I had heard and what had really happened. the conversation went as I expected and everything turned out to be a huge misunderstanding. 

I think that with any issue or problem that we are faced with from here on out it makes all the difference in the world to take 5 minutes to stop and think before speaking.

Chapter 4: Post 2

I think the answer to the question depends on the person you are talking to, what they’re talking about and if it’s an actual conversation or you’re being talked at. For the most part, my mind tends to wander when people are speaking to me. I always seem to have a lot on my mind and it always happens to pop up when someone is speaking to me. I always unintentionally seem to tune them out and think about the hundreds of things running through my mind. However, like I’ve said before, it varies on who is speaking and what the conversation is about.

For example, if I am in class and the teacher is lecturing on a topic that I don’t find interesting, I tend to go off in my own world and think about things that have been on my mind that day. However, I have come to find out that if I take notes on the lecture then I focus more on what is being said so I take good notes. It obviously if you’re in a deep conversation on something that is interesting to you or something that is bothering you, you are automatically into the conversation and are giving the other party your undivided attention. 

Chapter 4: Post 1

I wouldn’t say that it is very hard for me to stop the conflict. However, it depends on the situation. When I am faced with an issue, I usually take time to myself to take a deep breathe, calm down, and collect my thoughts so I am not speaking out of anger. I’ve learned this throughout passed experiences that I’ve had. I used to blow up right away if approached with a conflict and would always regret what I said because I was speaking merely out of anger. This was brought to my attention by a close friend of mine and I realized right away that I needed to change. I would definitely recommend taking a deep breathe, remaining calm and collecting your thoughts before proceeding with an argument. And if you need to tell the other party that you need to walk away to do so, then you should!

About me!

Hello everyone, 


My name is Dana and this is my first semester here at SJSU! I already have my AA in Merchandise Marketing from FIDM in San Francisco but was determined to get my BA in Communications! When I'm not at school I work at my parents restaurant and have an internship starting up pretty soon in event planning, so I'm excited for that. I am really excited to take this class and to see how I can use it to my advantage in my personal and work scenarious!


Tata for now!